Mothers/single moms I need your help and I have gotten no answers...Please?

Wooooo, that is a lot said. What I will say is that she is VERY afraid of getting hurt. I can say that I went through the same thiing when it came to the friends. My ex was okay with him having female friends, but not me having male friends. His issue was that since he was out doing dirt, he felt like that was the only way to protect me from doing what he was out doing. This could be the same case for your girlfriend. She may not be cheating, but she may be trying to do everything to prevent you from doing so and breaking her heart. The only complicated thing is that thwre is no answer or manual for what to do, this is all a tolerance test. One of two things will happen, it will either get worse or she will wake up and realize how much damage she is causing. If she doesnt learn, all that will happen is you will stay or leave. If you stay, she will continue to do what she is doing. You need to make a decision and unfortunately, until your heart is sure, it may hurt for a while before you have avtrue answer. You need to have a serious talk with her. From experience, I became depressed because i gave all to a man that I looked to in order to be my comforter, but when he wasnt available, i had no one to turn to like he did. If you are the kind of person that likes to have female friends, you need to do so. If you do not, you need to compromise with her. Ex. You no female friends, her no ex's as friends. If she disregards your feelings, its not fair for you to fulfil hers. I'm not saying walk in the door with your arm around another female and tell her to deal with it, before transitions back to yourself talk to her a few times about it so she can see that you are serious and it won't be a problem, atleast no one as big if you said nothing. But, she has to deal with her own issues before you can feel comfortable with who she is. Never forget, compromising is always a good thing. If you guys can meet in the middle, you may feel better about her male friends. About the female coworker, explain to her that of course you can't just not talk to her, but ask her "how do you want me to handle it"? If she has no answer or reasonable one, you both need to come up with a good solution. The honest answer if I could sum how to change all of this, is that you need power. Right now, she's in power. She says, you do. You do, she listens and does her own thing. I'm not saying you have no control, but with what seems to be tearing your relationship apart is in the hands of her. Gaining power could ruin your relationship if not done right, but initiating the conversation about this madness is a start. If she listens and deflects what you are saying, will you put your foot down or will you just let it be? At the end of the day, you need to be able to tell her this is where I want to be and if you do not wake up to the fact that you are hurting my heart, I may not be there in the end. You also need to help her realize how the strength of the relationship and whether not you two stay together will tear that little boys heart apart. just stay strong! If it doesn't get better, you have to decide to be a door mat and let her walk over you or you be the one to do the walking. You can never make someone do what they dont want to do, so if she really loves you and it is meant to be, she will change for the sake of the relationship. good luck! TO ADD from the craziness I just read from led Valentine, that is not true. I am a single woman and every situation is different. I could say I hate all men and all men are theaters. I could say all men don't lovr, but I don't. What I will make sure I do is keep a guard up of never forgetting in order to not get hurt again, but I would never get in a relationship thinking your going to the store, yeah your going to go see some chick. As far as the kids, its just when the time is right. If you introduce them when you first meet them, there could be 50 that these kids could be meeting, literally. I do not date that often, but from those that I see, it leaves the children confused, especially if they start to like them and their there one day and hurt that their gone when they saw them doing nothing bad. So do not listen to that. That is 100% untrue. My dad and uncle were abused as a child. My uncle beats on women and my dad couldn't even begin to give me a simple tap. like anything in life, it just depends on how that person percieves the situation.